I really liked this weeks reading about marriage. I was personally intrigued by Emma Goldman’s article, Marriage and Love. I come from a family with a very different cultural background. I felt like I could relate to a lot of the things that Emma was saying in her article (even though it was written in 1910.) My mother grew up a bit in this manner. She was very young when she married and then shortly after had me and moved to this country. Her culture was/is basically as Goldman explains it. She went from her father to her husband. From what I can remember growing up my mother always did exactly as my father asked. She cooked and cleaned for him even after working all day herself. My father never really lifted a finger around the house. Looking back and now being married and having a house and family and a full time job, I realize she worked so hard with very little reward. She must have been tired, but I don’t ever remember her complaining. I think she knew what was expected of her, that is how she was raised and these are the things that her mother taught her. She knew that the lifestyle was what my father expected. Even now she does all the same things. She still does not complain. My mother did loose her identity if not to my father then to her children. I see a lot of myself in my mother. I am lucky and have a husband who helps out so much. I don’t mind though, doing the house work. I really enjoy cooking for him and taking care of him. I think that marriage is quite a bit different now a day and so are we as men and women. It shouldn’t be a battle of who does or doesn’t do something, or if a woman marries she has to loose herself to the marriage or any of the other ridiculous things Emma Goldman suggests. She paints such a terrible picture.
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